Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Domestic Discipline, Do's & Don'ts, Part 2

My friend Strict Teacher was about to be married. Her fiancé was 31, ten years Her junior and a graduate student at the university where She is a tenured professor.
Strict Teacher intended to structure Her marriage on the framework of Domestic Discipline, with Herself as Head of Household. So She posted on My Femdom forum, asking members to share the Domestic Discipline agreements they made Their husbands sign.
Lady Rebecca Hurt was first to respond.
Most Dommes assemble a broad set of rules for Their DD contracts, Lady Hurt said. "In My case," She added, "I wanted a very specific set to deal with My primary focus at the time, My husband's enforced chastity.”
The agreement Her husband signed stipulated the following:
"1. Weekly, preferably on Friday evening after work, you will ask Me for the key to your chastity cage.
2. You will go to the bathroom, remove your cage and thoroughly wash it in front of Me.
3. After I have inspected your cock cage and have verified that it is clean, you will sit on the edge of the bathtub.
4. While I watch, you will masturbate to orgasm.
5. Next you will shower, dry yourself and join Me in the living room.
6. In nadu position, You will offer your penis to Me for My pleasure.
7. If I accept your offer, you will go to your room, strap on your hollow dildo over your cock and await My instructions.
8. If, instead, I decline the offer, you will put on your chastity cage, lock it and hand Me the key.
9. You will kiss both of My feet and say, ‘Thank You, Mistress Wife.'
“BTW,” Lady Hurt said. “The punishments I dish out for infractions of these rules do not involve corporal punishments. I find that withdrawing My husband's prized privileges (golf, etc.) is a better way.” In contrast, Domina Anna Fury's Domestic Discipline contract begins with a ritual reaffirmation of Her sub husband's subordination:
"1. Immediately after arising each morning, you will kiss My feet as proof of your continuing submission to Me, your Mistress.
2. you will not attempt to engage in sexual activity with Me except at My specific invitation.
3. Other than those occasions when I allow you to share My bed, you will remain strictly celibate.
4. Periodically, I will allow you to masturbate in front of Me. But except in My presence, you will never service yourself. If I discover that you have engaged in masturbation behind My back, you will wear your locked cock cage (the stainless steel one at home, the plastic one when you travel) for a minimum of three months, removing it only when I unlock it so you can clean it.
5. you will not show any jealousy, nor voice any objections, when I bring home one of My subs/boyfriends or spend the night at any of their homes.
6. you will treat these men with the same humility and deference that you accord to your Mistress.
7. Without complaint, you will accept daily maintenance spankings, except on those days that I find it necessary to forego them.
8. you may discuss, but not challenge, any financial decisions I make. In areas of your expertise (real estate investments, etc.) I will solicit your advice--and then make the final decision."
Finally, Princess Cathryn offered Her uniquely pragmatic prescription for domestic dominance. “1.) Toss Your fiancé's underpants into the garbage immediately, only allowing him to keep two pairs. From then on, he wears Your old panties. Every morning I choose which pair My husband will wear that day. The two pairs of men’s jockey shorts that I let him keep are only for special occasions, like when he has to go to the doctor.
2. Take control of the TV remote. When Y/you are watching the same TV at home, the remote is Yours, not his or ‘ours.’
3. Order Your husband to hand over to You all his credit cards. All money goes into joint accounts, but only You will be allowed to make withdrawals. Every withdrawal or financial transaction must require Your signature. All other assets--stocks, bonds, real estate etc.--are legally transferred to You.
4. After the first year of marriage I became bored with My husband’s lovemaking. If that happens to You, do what I did: I caged his cock. If he behaves, once a month I relieve him by hand, stroking his penis until he cums. ( Of course, I wear plastic surgical gloves.) But there is a time limit of 25 seconds. If he doesn’t orgasm within that time span, I send him to the bathroom, where he sits in the bathtub and jerks off until he cums.
5. Finally, every morning before breakfast (which Your fiancé/husband should make for both of Y/you) My husband gets on his knees and kisses My butt cheeks. If he’s been a really good boy, I may face-sit him for a few minutes, before I deliver his daily maintenance spanking.”
Strict Teacher was very grateful.
“This isn’t exactly the kind of advice I’d get from Dear Abby or Ann Landers,” She said wryly.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Domestic Discipline: Do's & Don'ts, Part 1


I married a much older man.
Before bob retired he’d been CEO of his own company. He could offer me a lifestyle of utter luxury and ease. On My part it wasn’t a love match. But bob was bright, considerate and charming.
And oh so very rich.
Unfortunately, once we started sharing the same space, old bob soon revealed typical male-creature traits: bullying bursts of testosterone and personal habits fit for a pigsty. (I’m a neat freak!)
I was determined to hold onto our marriage–and bob’s money.
In self-defense, I had no alternative: I was forced to play the real-life role of Mistress Wife.
In short order, I owned both his ass--and his assets.
I was a Professional Dominatrix. So for Me the transition to Mistress Wife was easy.
Other Women find the arrangement more complicated.
As I said, I married a much older man. Recently, a college professor friend of mine was about to reverse that chronology and marry a man ten years younger: a former student of Hers. My friend was 41-years-old, a lifestyle Domme. Her moniker in the fetish scene is Strict Teacher. The fiancé was 31, charming and bright, a graduate student at the same university. But, despite his intelligence, he always struck Me as quite immature, a perpetual teenager. It was clear he would need a firm hand.
Strict Teacher asked for My help.
I suggested that She post on My forum and solicit the advice of My members, many of whom had successful DD marriages.
Strict Teacher agreed.
“I’m less than a month away from marrying My fiancé,” She posted that evening. “O/our relationship will be based on Domestic Discipline principles with Me as undisputed Head of Household. The other detail worth noting is that My fiancé is ten years My junior," She added. "He is pursuing an advanced graduate degree and will be totally dependent upon me financially. . . . I'd appreciate counsel from Ladies here who actually have DD marriage experience. Are there any do's and don'ts that might help (or hinder) My prospects for a successful Femdom-led Domestic Discipline marriage?”
MatureMistress, one of the most experienced members of My forum, was first to respond.
“Since Your husband will be financially dependent on You, I highly recommend that prior to marrying him You have him sign a financial pre-nup. I mean a legal document, not something scrawled out on a napkin. And make sure that You and Your husband are both represented by lawyers at the signing," Mature Mistress added. "I speak from experience.”
MatureMistress went on to advise My friend to also draw up a Domestic Discipline contract, specifying Her rights as Head of Household plus Her future husband’s obligations.
“In Mine, I spelled out exactly what I expected from My husband, from his household chores to the duties he would perform in the bedroom.”
A few days later, Strict Teacher thanked MatureMistress for Her counsel, but added this caveat:
“I’ve been scouring the web for a sample DD contract I could adapt to My own use, but have come up empty-handed,“ She said. “Most of the ones I've seen are downright silly or drawn up for male dominants, usually in the Christian Domestic Discipline niche.
"If anyone here has a Domestic Discipline contract they'd be willing to share, I'd much appreciate it.”
Several Ladies were only too happy to oblige, posting the strict (occasionally bizarre) rules of Domestic Discipline they employ to keep their husbands in groveling submission.
Tune in for Part 2.